Tag Archives: family
The Myth of the Model Family
http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshhvj8Rq0p1fQf9qj9f
Its A Video, but I feel that a child needs a father figure in his or her life. It is important for both parents to be present.
Harmony at Home
Interesting Study – Myth of Gender, Families
This study covers the amount of time wives spend on housework one they have husbands and families. As you can assume, it goes up significantly from the hours spent by husbands on housework.
http://www.reuters.com/article/us-housework-husbands-idUSN0441782220080404
The Story We Tell About Poverty Isn’t True : TED Talk
The New American Family
Daily Write, 10/12 What My Discourse Community Map Has to Teach Me
For the weekend homework, I focused on four discourse communities of mine. The way I communicate with my daughter, Jane. The way I communicate as a teacher (my Mrs. B identity). The way I communicate with a church group I’m apart of (the Neighborhood Life Committee). And the way I communicate in my professional setting (the University of Mississippi Writing Project).
What I notice that I’m proud of in the way I communicate is that I really try and capture some of Jane’s moments in writing, either through blogging, my HuffPost work, or through journaling/emailing her “future self.” Of course, we also share notes (Jane can’t write yet, but we draw pics and leave them in funny places). She has something drawn for me almost every day, and I always put it on the fridge or in a prominent place. One of my favorite things I do to communicate with Jane’s “adult” self is keeping a journal to her. I started it about a year before I got pregnant, when I’d first started thinking about motherhood. I can’t wait to give it to her years from now so that she can see this realistic side of being a woman and starting a family.
What I notice that’s problematic about the way I communicate is that I rarely interact with UMWP or NBL unless I have a specific role to play. Life gets to busy, and there is far more going on in these two committees than I can be apart of with working and taking care of my kiddo. So I’ll sign up every once in a while for a job (VBS in the summer, Transitioning Symposium, the All Saints Christmas Dinner), and I feel good about those things, but I avoid all else. It makes me question whether or not my heart is really into the work or whether or not I just see my committee work as a “social obligation.”
Overall, I’m a writer, so I think communication is sorta built into my identity in a way that it may not be for other people. I love to talk. I love to write. I love to write about talking. I love to talk about writing.
My sister and me
So, I love my sister, but we’re so different. I can’t even begin to explain all the ways in which we are different. But, I do have a great visual to illustrate it. It’s a sample text message I received from her just this morning. Heather doesn’t communicate very well. She hates to be “chatty;” she’s not the fun type to go out with on a girl’s night. She’s not one to use a lot of exclamation points in her messages. She’s straight to the point. Sometimes I don’t know how to read that. Like in this message about watching my daughter this weekend. When she messages back, “She can stay with me,” I can’t tell if that’s exciting for her or if it makes her mad (like I’ve now ruined her Friday evening). She gives no other details, no emojis to express her feelings more fully. And when I’ve asked her about it, she’ll say she just doesn’t like using all of that stuff when texting. Of course, I have tons of exclamation points. I use emojis when I text because I feel like it gives people a better understanding of my thought process (or at least the feelings behind what I have to say). I really wish she’d take a hint because I have no idea sometimes where she stands on things. Here’s the text:
